Glad to hear about your dad, Donner.
Some examples of 'creepy' nursing homes:
People who suffered stroke(s) that rendered them bed-ridden, and have to have their lungs drained every week so they do not suffocate on lung fluid resulting from chronic pneumonia. They have to be 'turned' every two hours to prevent bed sores (decubitus ulcers). Their eyes work, and tell of their misery.
Decubes are nasty business, and are common in incoming residents. Then there is gangrene. Especially with those having diabetes.
Or, watching the aftermath of a 102 year old man with advanced dementia waking up in the middle of the night to find a tube coming out of his penis, and he pulls it out. Imagine pulling an inflated balloon from your bladder to out your penis. He was panicked, as I can imagine. And yeah, it bled like a mother ---.
Or people with advanced Alzheimer's, who think they're in prison and that people are molesting them (because they are a danger to themselves and others, and they need their diaper changed).
And then there's staph.
I'm not selfish, Donner. And while 'creepy', it is reality for many of our elderly.
Again, glad to hear about your dad.