And what an ego to think that anyone would care if he left the US!!!

Heck, I'll help him pack!!

Many people will now be working in overdrive to pass this!!!

LMBO Live or Die!!!!

LOL

Richard,

I don't just assume that only women are raped! A very dear male friend of mine was raped for years by a family member.

You don't appear to be in that catagory by the statements you make. In particular, your insistance that if one wouldn't report it because their name would be published, they are continuing to play the victim tells me that you have no understanding of the many faceted feelings a victim goes through.

I love the little clip of the one penguin walking past the other when he gets slapped face down on the ice...LOL.

Come talk to me when you have been raped, Richard.

You remind me of people who would say...if I was being raped, I would do this or I would do that, to stop the assult!

You sit in judgement of how one should respond.

You don't know unless you have been in that same situation.

For the record, I am not a victim any longer. I dealt with that long ago. I have forgiven him and even pray for him.

You should practice your psycho analysis elsewhere.

But no hard feelings.

LOL Corky!

"So do I, but I also feel that, in sex crime cases, the accused name should be kept out as well until proven guilty since there is such a stigma attached to just being accused."

I can agree to that.

"And most cases are her word against his with no other witnesses, so it is impossible to say beyond a doubt which side is lying really until the case is heard."

I hate to break it to you, but there are many men who have been accused, who are actually guilty and it's his word that is believed!

"You misunderstand what I am saying but allowing yourself to be continued to victimized by not coming forward is allowing the rapist to win.

I was raised in a family where sexual and physical abuse was prevalent but the refusal of the victims to step forward meant that they were able to victimize other people.

I had this argument with my mother and I understand the desire to protect her children but I also recognize that by not standing up you are continuing to be a victim and allowing others to be victims. "

Oh Richard, you don't have the first clue about what I did to claim that I am still victimized.

"However, if we teach our daughters to fight and to stand up against them be damn the fear of humiliation then that is only way this stop."

And you think publishing her name is going to help that???

LOL

I love penguins!

"Then perhaps we should teach our young girls not to have a victim mentality but rather to fight and to win even if someone makes them a victim."

I would hardly call a woman who was raped and wanting to stop the humilation as playing the victim card, Richard.

It is mind boggling how some men think that women should not have rights to privacy and should just suck up the aftermath from being raped and violated.

Kan, I realize that there are times when women falsely accuse one of rape and believe me when I tell you that it infurates me when that happens. And when it is proven that she has lied, her name should be publicized and should atone for the damage she has caused.

However, more times than not, the accuser isn't lying. I absolutely disagree with putting her name in the limelight!!

Personally, I think less women would come forward to press charges if they knew their name is going to be published.

I know I wouldn't have.

Been a busy girl, Chris!

Did you sell the house?

"I am not saying not to, I am saying that if you release the name of the accused, you release the name of the victim."

I strongly disagree with this, Kan.

A victim has suffered enough humiliation, has had her privacy already been violated. And you believe that she should suffer more because it's not "fair" to the assailant??

Way to wind him up Chris!! LOL

#19

You're blaming Larry????

Good grief! Do yoi blame the abused child too? How about the rape victim? Store owner who was robbed??

Much easier to blame the victim than it is to discipline those who cause the problem and have them correct bad behavior, apparently!

"101CHAIRBORNE chased him off DR with incessant crude, insulting remarks. Larry got sick of it"

And who could blame him?

The bullying here is ridiculous. There are some members whose ony goal here is insulting others. They have no interest in civilized mature discussion.

Sadly, the wrong people end up leaving!

#286

Many of us have been coming to DR for many, many years and are more like family than just anonymous members and we have always helped each other out like this. I think it's great!

A1, hope you are able to get it running properly again!

"Jesus wasn't a conservative; he was a revolutionary. He not only takes the side of the poor; he puts himself in their place. In the very alarming parable of the sheep and the goats he speaks of salvation as depending on how we treat the poorest and the most afflicted."

AU, salvation is NOT dependent upon anything we do. If that were the case, Christ would not have had to suffer and die to atone for our sins. We could have saved ourselves!

Furthermore, Scripture tells us that we can do nothing to earn our salvation lest no man can boast.

The ONLY way to salvation is belief in Jesus as our Savior.
It's that simple.

However, early followers of Christ used to take all they had and share it with other followers to help them.

As followers of Christ we are to help the needy, but our salvation does not depend on it!!

I am not defending those who do not help others, I just wanted to correct your statement.

My church is not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination, but we contribute to so many in need... in and out of our church community, to ministries, anywhere that we can help.

I personally am not wealthy, but we contribute to peope who are in need.

We do so because it is the right thing to do....not to earn our way into Heaven.

Being not bewing! Geesh

"Are you blonde or something?"

Nothing wrong with bewing blonde!

Break a leg Dan!!! I wish you all the best!

Thank you! And of course it means something to me, silly.

Gotta get going, you have a wonderful evening!

"How's ya new hubby doin'? You're not wearin' him out too quickly, are ya?"

He's wonderful! Of course I'm wearing him out!! : )

"Long time, no see, Lisa!"

Been a busy girl.