Fair point. Men serving their country lost their lives and I commiserate with their families in mourning for the lives of these men lost. RIP "to those in peril on the sea".
On the incident, an expert opinion:
"Both destroyers had damage on the port side, indicating that in both cases they were the "privileged vessel," meaning that they had the right of way. That vessel is required to hold their course and speed so as not to confuse the other, "burdened" vessel as they maneuver to keep clear.
That being said, once things deteriorate, even the privileged vessel must maneuver to avoid collision. That means that initially things are easier for the privileged bridge crew, but once the situation deteriorates the bridge crew must be alert, knowledgeable, and able to think clearly and rapidly to a higher degree than is the case on the burdened vessel.
The difficulty on the privileged vessel once it is clear that the burdened vessel is not taking proper action is extreme and requires great skill. Ships, for instance, do not turn like a car does. There is a delay between the time the helm is put over and the ship's course begins to change, and the bow does not move - the stern does, pushing the ship onto the new course rather than the case of a car where the front wheels are leading it to the new course. The ships are moving much faster than changes in course can occur."