As someone that volunteered, went to war and saw comrades die I know where that kind of sentiment comes from as well. But those are the words spoken among family and friends in the quiet moments while reflecting back on the life of someone lost. These are the conversations that the grieving have when they are working through stages of grief and trying to rationalize the whats and whys of a lost soldier.
Those are not the words that a CinC would ever use. Those are not the words that a bereavement officer would ever use. So if you're telling us that you've used those types of words as a BO, unless you knew the individual and family very well, it confirms my opinion of you as an officer. Would make me very glad you're now retired.
That's why this is a scandal. We have a person without the even most basic understanding of what it means to serve and die leading our armed forces. We have someone without even to most basic level of compassion, remorse or human emotion.
I've been upset that he had not even reached out to the families but now I'm certain that in the future it would be better if he left that to Mattis or Kelly. Hell, even Kelly Ann Conway would be better at this than him.