You really don't understand me like you must think.
One is plenty enough.
Really...I figure I'm in the same boat as a lot of men my age who are married and their wife has become old and winkled.
Men who are totally straight look around and see...well...something younger and prettier they would enjoy to be with...and well...sure...the truth is if I was single I would feed the need and these totally straight guys are compromising for the good of their marriage just like I do.
But...married as long as I have been just assume we have a lot more going than you think.
I've read statistics for couples our age and we're doing a lot better than most our age just regular normal getting it on.
We enjoy each other physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and our values match very well.
Sometimes I have felt a little self pity because I had to compromise more than a lot of people but it was my choice.
And the truth is I had a lot better life than I would have if I had remained in the gay lifestyle.
Some people flourished in the gay world and fit it and and some didn't. Statistically the overwhelming majority of gay men I knew back then are now dead. Expected life spans are shorter for gay men.
Remember I was out in the 70's....a much harder time for gays than today.
I made my choice marrying a woman and it was the "right" thing for me.