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Wednesday, May 29, 2019

One of my favorite pastimes is to think of every bad, awkward, or embarrassing thing I've ever done and let them tumble around in my head until I am prostrate on the floor. The aggregation of all these bad feelings -- I said something dumb, my friends are ignoring me, my toes are weird -- typically leads to catastrophic ones: I am awful, nobody likes me, I will die alone because of my weird toes. My friend who is also named Leah says not to let yourself think about any unpleasant interaction for more than seven seconds, which is very good advice; currently I am probably at around seven days, but sometimes seven years.

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I have become dedicated to finding ways to separate myself from these annoying, circuitous, and potentially destructive emotional loops. Distractions help: talking to a friend, going for a walk, or even, extremely unfortunately, going to the gym. But distractions are not really enough. What I really seek is distance and, eventually, detachment.

I wrote about this a little bit last year when talking about the concept of envy, another thing that dogs my dog brain. Drawing from philosophy and psychological theory, we can learn that envy is woven into our DNA, therefore there is nothing we can do about it, and we cannot feel personal guilt about something we cannot control. I was pretty happy with this conclusion, and it ameliorated my envy for at least 48 hours.

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Boaz, this woman needs intervention - there is somebody for everyone (mine was a Venusian named Sensuella).

#1 | Posted by HeliumRat at 2019-05-29 10:19 PM | Reply

I found that every depression could be eliminated by running at the beach. Sometimes it was hard to make myself go and do it but, with encouragement from others, I did go do it. Every single time the depression went away and it was debilitating depression. I don't experience that any more, thankfully, but if I do, I know what to do.

#2 | Posted by danni at 2019-05-30 07:33 AM | Reply

Don't spend 5 minutes regretting or worrying over something you won't remember in 5 years.

Don't remember who said that, but it's good advice.

#3 | Posted by MUSTANG at 2019-05-30 07:48 AM | Reply

@RussiaRat,
Being normal doesn't = being a paid Russian troll posing as an American in order to post propaganda and b*llsh*t. That just isn't normal behavior.

#4 | Posted by aborted_monson at 2019-05-30 04:58 PM | Reply


"Brothers and sisters, I count not myself to have apprehended (comprehended): but this one thing I do, forget those things which are in the past, and reach forth to those things which are ahead." - Paul the Apostle

"Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?"

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." - JC

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"What, me worry?" - Alfred E.

#5 | Posted by Corky at 2019-05-30 06:06 PM | Reply

Don't Worry Be Happy
- Bobby McFerrin

Problem with depression is for people with severe clinical depression all the advice to just get happy won't work.

I have struggled with depression since getting MS some of it is situational depression caused by having MS, that is pretty easy to deal with as when a relapse stops typically the depression does as well and if it doesn't I can make it go away by thinking positive etc.

However I also get clinical depression (possibly caused by MS) and that can be a bitch. I'm usually a pretty happy go lucky person but that ---- will lock you down and there is no easy way out. I would try Danni's idea but the beach is 3 hours away and the heat and sand tend to make MS flare up worse so...

---- clinical depression and ---- all the people who think saying don't worry be happy will fix it.

#6 | Posted by TaoWarrior at 2019-05-30 06:24 PM | Reply

#4 | Posted by aborted_monson

That was awesome.

Also, I really feel for your personal tragedy - that must have been really hard to take.

But keep up the good work. I consider you a friend now.

#7 | Posted by HeliumRat at 2019-05-30 06:56 PM | Reply | Funny: 1

| Posted by aborted_monson

That was awesome.

Also, I really feel for your personal tragedy - that must have been really hard to take.

But keep up the good work. I consider you a friend now.

#7 | POSTED BY RussiaRat

I don't make friends with Ruskie trolls that are working to destroy my country.

I'm funny like that.

My only personal tragedy is reading you and your co-workers propaganda.

#8 | Posted by aborted_monson at 2019-05-30 09:33 PM | Reply

Normal?

Its interesting question .... my recommendation is to become more mindful. I don't mean in the "meditative" sense. Just learn to control your mind, to refocus describe things, sit and observe without judgment. Try to let future and past events float by without consideration, refocus on observe and describing.

Its difficult in the beginning, but once you get used to it, I found I see things much much differently.

#9 | Posted by AndreaMackris at 2019-05-30 09:39 PM | Reply

"Normal?"

I believe you.

#10 | Posted by snoofy at 2019-05-30 09:45 PM | Reply

You have to have aged to a mellow 65+ to even think what is normal. But even that is dicey.

#11 | Posted by dxlingr at 2019-05-30 10:23 PM | Reply

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