Let me explain it:
Fetuses are living human beings, who have a heartbeat and measurable brain waves and at some point feel pain. (See The Silent Scream).
These babies also have not committed any crimes, and been sentenced to death by a jury of their peers, with NUMEROUS proper due process protections. Therefore we do not support their murder. The woman's body ends where their body begins.
Convicted murderers are found GUILTY by a jury of their peers and have all the rights found above.
Prolife means we protect innocent life.
Imprisoning and executing those found guilty (with very strict due process protections, is actually prolife.
No one has produced a quote of a prolifers talking about or writing about how they want to control women, we talk about how we want to save babies, help women (look at the high rates of suicide, drug and alcohol abuse, and subsequent abuse of "wanted" children to the same women), and help the subsequently born children. There are way more crisis pregnant centers than abortion clinics in this country.
On why SOME prolifers aren't for big government programs, there are valid reasons. MANY prolifers love those big government programs.
Ever seen a poll on the subject?
So many of you that either suck on the teet of big government or want other to suck it can't get over this subject. You should do your own research on the subject.
I'm glad for many of our government programs that help the poor, the elderly, the sick and so forth. I'm glad for the private charities that do it too.