i intended to follow~up on a word i used when vocabulary became an issue, and had already obviously crossed the line (but i wasn't going to be cowed into backing down).
i had read Camille Paglia's book, Vamps and Tramps, years ago (her 3rd & she was new to me at the time). it was of course quite controversial, and inflamed feminists more than her first two books had. i recently decided to go back & read those, the first of which is Sexual Personae. i used that title in connection to Elvis days ago (very appropriately, except i didn't recall my high school Latin, which would've informed me -AE is how a word becomes plural). This book is highly academic, and anything but dry. "Chthonian" is her favorite word, which i had to get defined as well as learn how to pronounce. it means spirits of or under the earth, and likewise, she uses "daemonic" quite a bit.
a major issue that must arise from Conner Mertens' coming out (#18 almost goes there, but is about narcissism) is the FEAR heterosexual men have of a gay man in the locker room & shower (homophobia in its most basic form). they fear they will be sexualized necessarily, just as they would sexualize a female member of the team if she showered with them. it is a groundless, irrational fear, and they need to get over themselves. (this issue arose when female reporters forced their way into the locker room, satirized at the time on SNL & later in Sex & the City. not sure, but i think the locker room got divided into naked & non-naked sections to accommodate them.) a gay football player is only doing what his teammates are doing in the shower, getting clean. it is no big deal and no big thrill. (dropping the soap is always a joke.)
This fear is ironic in & of itself, because the football uniform, quite notably sexualizes the male physique--the suit & the affectionate rear-slapping, etc., mentioned a lot--with the tight pants & shoulder pads (broad shoulders a primary indicator of male attractiveness). this fact is verified by example that the more modest quarterbacks (the "star" & for some reason usually the most glamorous & attractive team member) will hang a rag in the front from their waistband. i've wondered if that's to wipe/dry their hands, but have never seen them do that; so have assumed they are uncomfortable about the fact that the uniform reveals too much. it is revealing; and THAT is an unstated attraction to the game for women and straight men alike.
Except when it's too damn cold, as it will be for this Sunday's Superbowl.