Lisa,
"Part of the problem today is that women want to take control and wear the pants, they don't trust their husbands to make good decisions for their family."
I understand where you're coming from. As a Christian, I respect and honor your views.
However, as an older Christian, my views have evolved.
For example...resting on the Sabbath.
What exactly is "rest"? If a man works in construction, then refraining from physical labor would be how he might rest.
However, if a man is a programmer, perhaps he should refrain from writing code, and perhaps he might find working in the yard enjoyable, and restful.
You see...I believe the laws given to us in the Bible are for our benefit and are not intended to simply be a bunch of rules to be followed blindly.
Am I saying there are exceptions to the rules or it's ok to break the rules? Well...not exactly. What I am saying is that these rules might be applied to different people in different ways.
In other words, there are Godly couples who have reversed roles. Perhaps the woman takes on a more dominate position, and the man might be more passive.
Would that be sin in the eyes of God? I don't think so.
What works for you and your husband might not work for other couples.
Or...how about this?
Are you comfortable with the idea of women teaching Sunday School in church? You most likely are. Why? Because you've seen it's practical and, frankly, Apostle Paul wasn't exactly correct in his views towards women.
You see...I don't worship Apostle Paul or the Bible. I worship Jesus Christ.
Relax and enjoy the experience of being a Christian. You don't have to be perfect.
Just forgiven.