no she is a wife who has been dumped and she is to sad to just go away

sanford needs to allow his big head to do his thinking for him. such is the same with most men. mrs. sanford will rise like cream to the top of this situation - more people than not are on her side. he needs to stfu and quit embarassing himself, his family and his state. go away, mark - go to argentina if you have to.

Nanc what would you do if your husband was doing the same thing?

I actually admired her initial response. Willing to forgive her husband's transgressions, but not condone them. She initially was able to openly and with dignity discuss the circumstances surrounding the affair. Seemed like a very sane and intelligent person trying to work through a tough situation.

#3 | Posted by rasta

they would have to search for his dna in at least 20 states just to come up with an ear. now i must go sharpen the blades on my mulcher.

I'm hopeful that she's put an end to the "stand by your man" press conferences -- I always hated to see smart, interesting women being publicly humiliated that way.

I'm surprised people forget that she was a high-powered exec herself, though -- VP of Mergers and Acquisitions at Lazard, a top NY investment bank. I'd guess it makes a difference 3 ways. First, she has an identity apart from "Governor Sanford's wife" -- she doesn't lose everything when her husband is a jerk. Second, she's had a ton of experience dealing/negotiating with wayward hotshots. Finally, there's no way could she play the martyr/victim role and ever hope to resume a career like that.

I am for more impressed with her for booting the Cheating, lying, dog of a man than with Little miss "Stand By Your Man" Hillary or, Elizibeth Edwards for not divorcing Ole John for cheating on her while she is freaking dying!

"i must go sharpen the blades on my mulcher.

#5 | Posted by nanc at 2009-07-03 03:07 PM | Reply | Flag: FAVORITE MOVIE? FARGO.

She makes about as much sense as Susan Sontag ever fid.

Scratch my comment. I just relized all she did was tell him to move out. I dont think she has actually filed for divorce, yet. Will have to stay tuned.

Here is audio of Jenny Sanford answering a question about Silda Spitzer's reaction to her Eliot's infidelity...

I dont think she has actually filed for divorce, yet. -- #10 | Posted by GotTruth

They've got 4 kids. How can you NOT give reconciliation a chance?

They've got 4 kids. How can you NOT give reconciliation a chance?

#12 | Posted by Phoenix at 2009-07-04 02:44 PM

Guess she'll just have to give that unfaithful critter of hers a second chance. Even though he would be able to see his kids if they divorced, it still would be better for them to keep their marriage intact.

I wonder if he's had a history of messing around with other women in the past, or if he just had one of those "male menopause" moments which some guys get after they hit middle age and feel a need to go looking for thrills they feel they've missed out on by being married for years?

Once somebody cheats the trust is gone. The marriage may go on but never be the same

Well, her husband wouldn't have done anything wrong in the first place if the damn gays hadn't virtually forced him to when they demand gay marriage. Of course she is a feminist hero, feminists always recognize that men don't do wrong things, society and women just force them to do wrong things. I respect her for trying to reconcile with her husband and I really do he is successful in "trying to fall back in love with her."

i love fargo.

#12 | Posted by Phoenix

definitely NOT after all the love he's poured out to the world on his little chippy - if he'd said she meant nothing and it was just sexual, perhaps they could make a go of it, but he put his heart into the affair - makes it a no-go.

The thing you've all missed is that she doesn't have any reason to be upset - she knew. And I suspect that she was actually completely ok with it.

I suspect that she also had her own boytoy on the side as well, and he likely knew.

Monogamy is a silly construct in recent human history, and not even remotely functional. Eventually, we as a culture will hopefully grow out of this childish concept of a lifetime relationship with one person, and accept that a variety of experiences are a good thing.

This particular sad situation is that this couple who obviously know that monogamy does not work feel compelled to put on a front of it, and may even believe it's a good thing, because of their stupid belief in a book of self-contradictory mythology being relevant to their lives.

Yes. She is a feminist hero. She did what was right for herself and her children instead of putting her cheating husband first. She did it with dignity.

If only some of the radical "feminists", the ones who turn on other women like a pack of wolves if they don't share the exact same radical ideology, could conduct themselves with the dignity that Jenny Sanford has shown.

If only some of the radical "feminists", the ones who turn on other women like a pack of wolves ... -- #19 | Posted by YesWeCan

You're thinking Nanc is a radical feminist?

Oh -- I fully agree with the rest of your post, though.

I can say anything bad about the women. Whether she chose to stay with him or boot him, it's her choice and the 'public opinion' of her choices is completely irrelevant and should be an issue left only to her.

No, Pheonix, I wasn't saying that Nanc is a radical "feminist." I disagree with her life views and I think it's curious that she would make the assumption that Jenny Sanford is not monogamous, but that's just my opinion.

The radical "feminists" that I'm talking about are the ones that can take a woman who is strong, independent, educated, made it on her own, etc, and shred her just because she doesn't have one opinion on one issue, namely, abortion. I think that true feminists will support such a woman, not tear her down simply over her view on one issue.

#20 | Posted by Phoenix

BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHA! flag.

#23 | Posted by YesWeCan

a woman with four small boys in the house has little time BUT to be monogamous...IF she's being a good mother and wife.

p.s. - anybody else notice there are ALOT of new posters here in the past couple of weeks? 'zup widdat? must be sure to keep an eye on the sitemeter.

Nanc, it's the posters who were on exile creating new names.

Happens every time.

BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHA! flag. -- #24 | Posted by nanc

Just a matter of semantics, Nanc. You tend to sound Dr. Laura-esque, Dr. Laura is very Camille Paglia-esque, and Paglia is a feminist. Ergo...

Who cares? This story is over covered. I don't really care who fucks whom. Read the book "Adams Curse," and find out about infidelity. Humans are more polygamous than monogamous. Marriage is an ancient custom doomed for failure.

Whatever works. As for me, I would be very unhappy in a polygamous relationship, just as I would be very unhappy as a drug addict. People get addicted to drugs because it "feels good." It doesn't mean that it ultimately makes them happy. For many people, it's the same thing with polygamy.

There are many people out there that don't enjoy sex just for the physical act itself, but rather, enjoy it when there are deep emotional feelings and commitment shared with their partner---connecting physically with someone you also can connect with on a soul level.

That is why some people value self-restraint, not just with sex and drugs, but with many areas of life as well. Sometimes doing what makes you "feel good" causes a lot of pain to other people, which ultimately causes pain to yourself. Unless of course you truly don't care about whether you hurt those you claim to care deeply about. In that case, it wouldn't matter if you engaged in polygamy, drug abuse, or any manner of self-indulgence.

#28 | Posted by Phoenix

i am the farthest female from being a feminist i know - men are far too important to me! love them! always have.

rex - i hope i never have to remember trying to be someone else...so tiring just being me.

definitely NOT after all the love he's poured out to the world on his little chippy - if he'd said she meant nothing and it was just sexual, perhaps they could make a go of it, but he put his heart into the affair - makes it a no-go.

#17 | Posted by nanc at 2009-07-04 05:28 PM

Yet if he had had even a short affair with only one woman -- but you knew with her his heart and feelings had come into play -- then most women would have a hard time getting past that part enough to forgive him -- or at the very least it would take awhile.