MURPHY
This is a 2-part post in answer to your post-Thanksgiving day message to me.
CC--If you check in today--
We had a GREAT Thanksgiving yesterday!
We gave our Dad the copies of the website on him.
Then we showed him the website.
I am sorry to report the man does not know what a mouse is/does. We bought him a computer a couple of years ago and he returned it.
And I sent emails to the webmasters who know him. One flew with him on another ship.
They are having a reunion in May. They want him to be a panelist.
He is pretty stubborn and has a bad ankle.
He says he won't go--but I have like 5 months to turn the excuses into opportunities.
I really want to Thank You again. Thanks!
#11 | Posted by MURPHY at 2008-11-28 02:41 PM | Reply
I apologize for taking so long to write this and I know I told you to check the Nooner for my response and that was days ago!
I'd come on DR a couple times since then specificially to respond to your post but then would get distracted on other thread. (If you don't get a chance to see this post tonight, I'll draw your attention to it next time I catch up with you on DR.)
I was determined to finally get back to you tonight about your Dad because I had an idea about getting him to go to his reunion.
First thing I wanted to ask you -- How did your Dad rrespond to seeing his Viet Nam history when you and your family showed him the website, the rescue photos, the pictures of him receiving his medals and everything when you presented it to him on Thanksgiving? (You needn't say, though, if its too personal for you.)
When you first told me what you and your sisters planned to do and how you would present it to him on Thanksgiving Day, I was almost as excited as you all were. But one thing I was a little concerned about (but never wanted to mention to you beforehand) was the possibility you might not get the joyful reaction from him that you were all hoping for.
I don't know your Dad at all, of course, but being that you said he never wanted to talk about his time over in 'Nam I thought there might have been a possibility of him being very quiet, or maybe even being very sad or kind of tearful when he saw the website and photos. Wanted to tell you to be prepared for the possiblity of a different reaction than you had expected but didn't want to jinx anything so I didn't mention it. I hope he was thrilled with it. It may also take him some time to absorb all the memories being brought back up again too.
REUNION -- You said the guys want to make your Dad a panelist for their May reunion but that your Dad does not want to even attend (let alone be on the panel!).
Will now leave you the couple of suggestions/thoughts I had about it --
1. Maybe putting your Dad in the spotlight by having him made him one of the reunion's panelists perhaps might "too much" for him to handle at first? Since this would be your Dad's first time in years seeing and talking with all the guys from his old unit (not to mention bringing up of all the old 'Nam memories over again) maybe your Dad would feel more at ease and might enjoy it more if he knew he would just be an attendee at the reunion where he could just mingle and talk with everyone rather than being highlighted as a panelist. Espeically considering it's the very first time he's seen these guys in years.
I'm just going by the fact that he hasn't even wanted to talk about his time in 'Nam all these years so maybe he's be more easily swayed into going if he thought he could remain "low-key." Just a thought.
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